No matter how much we adore our children, there are bound to be parts we’d like to ‘parent’ out of them.
‘Where did my child learn to whine (or rage or be so completely disorganized)?’
‘Why isn’t she more caring, (or less judgmental or more talkative)?’
The Enneagram, which maps out nine different personality patterns and the motivations behind them, can guide us toward new ways of interacting with our kids. First, we learn our own types. Next we look at how our type plays out in our lives as parents.
After that, through observing our children and listening to what they are saying and what they aren’t saying, we begin to get a sense of what personality patterns we see in them. Without necessarily typing them–though some children will be old enough to discover their own types–we can begin to respond to the behaviors and underlying motivations we sense in our children in ways which resource their growth and inner alignment.
Armed with the wisdom of the Enneagram, you can:
…learn how to respond to your children’s behavior in ways that allow them to stay true to themselves instead of who they think you want them to be.
…begin to understand their motivations, build compassion and reduce frustration.
…learn ways to work with their behaviors rather than against them.
I offer a 6-week self-study ecourse (with my colleague Nancy Goodman) where we look in depth at the 9 Enneagram types in children and specific ways parents can respond to and interact with their kids depending on what they observe in them.
To prepare for this 6-week class, we offer a 90-minute teleclass where we describe the 9 different points of view and help you figure out your parenting personality type. Even if you know your type, you are bound to learn something new about yourself or how other personalities see the world. These are both life-changing parenting resources to add to your toolkit– I hope you will check them out + reach out with any questions.
About Courtney + Nancy
Courtney is the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching, host of the Summer of Meditation Challenge, and publisher of a weekly enewsletter on real-world mindfulness practices (including conscious parenting tips.) She lives in Oak Cliff, Texas with her husband Richard Amory where they try to keep up with their three young children and remember to water their garden boxes. Courtney can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or you can schedule a complementary clarity session to talk more.
Nancy Goodman is the founder of A Parent Connection and a licensed social worker and EMDR practitioner. Passionate about helping people find freedom and peace, Nancy is also a mama of two who lives with her family in Denver, CO. You can read more about Nancy and her work at http://aparentconnection.com/about/