Anytime I go through a big change there is a moment of reckoning. The reality of having to let go of one life (or dissolve it) to make space for the next. That moment has arrived.
And with it the big feelings and body sensations. This has been intensified by four days of solo parenting while my beloved is in Nicaragua doing reconnaissance and exploring a job opportunity. (I know… I know… it is funny how when you say yes to a big shift sometimes other possibilities open you weren’t previously even considering!) I’ll keep you posted on how all of it shakes out, but in the mean time here are some of his Nica pics to whet all of our appetites for what is to come!
During the intensity of this final phase before we move (10 days and counting) I am acutely aware of what helps me ride the waves of this transition. In addition to the oases I wrote about last week in my blog post about liquidating our household (i.e. the key pieces of furniture we have kept to the very end which are like islands of sanity as we sell, move and otherwise dismantle the rest) — my morning routine is also vital to helping me keep it together.
I explore the power of a custom routine in the intro to my forthcoming book:
“Life is not only about being generative. It is also about receiving. In fact it is not knowing how to receive which blocks many women from truly sharing their gifts. So we will teach you how to go receptive in a way which feels authentic to you. This enables you to learn how to know and trust yourself. So that you can operate from a steady core even as you reach and stretch. And how to craft your own custom formula of mindbody and meditation techniques which make you feel so held and seen in your own life. Which greet you in the morning and tuck you in at night and catch you when you are crashing and celebrate with you when you fly: resiliency.“
So my fresh-squeezed lemon water in the morning to awaken the senses has never tasted so good. My five minutes in bed journaling and answering three questions every day (more on those another day – they are worth their own blog post!) – keeps me grounded. My morning 20 minute sit is non-negotiable. As is my evening walk to discharge all that hyper energy of responding to FB inquiries of people interested in various items. I love decompressing on the stroll with my husband as we enjoy our country lane in the city for a few more days.
I also need liberal doses of body care: chiropractic, massage, and acupuncture have all been really important. And sleep — though I confess I didn’t do so well with that one last night. Naps are featuring prominently.
And at the same time the routine holds me I also am invited to be flexible. So the last few days I’ve dropped a rung or two down Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs as I focus on keeping us all fed and watered and healthy. I still am meditating and doing yoga but not at my regular times — because I’m driving my kids back and forth to horse camp and by the time I’m back home I’m too hungry to sit or do yoga so I do it later.
And sometimes I’m too tired to meditate sitting up. That is when I take a twenty minute “medi-nap” — listening to a favorite guided meditation in my bed while I rest.
Summer is a time to be flexible with our routines and to nourish ourselves in playful ways. Whether it is a big move or summer travel and leisure I’d love to hear how you keep it all together even as the ground shifts under your feet! I’ve been tweaking my FB business page to get it ready to be my author FB page when the book comes out this fall and I would love for you to connect over there and share your thoughts.
At its core this is what my 8 step FLOURISH coaching program + book is all about: designing a life which supports you, rather than feeling like you have to push, strive, and hold it all together at home, work and everywhere else. If you are interested to learn more (this online program includes one on one coaching sessions with me and a bonus of participating in a special retreat in Nicaragua in October!) schedule your complementary discovery session today. This is a conversation between the two of us where you share more what is stirring for you and I share all about your coaching options and those retreat details. I have just a few spots available next week before we take off I hope you will grab one today! xo Courtney
Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual masters degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School, is the creator of the 8 step FLOURISH Formula Coaching program and publishes a popular blog on soulful living. Courtney teaches regularly on the Enneagram (a personality map), meditation, and mindbody practices to reduce stress as well as supporting busy women who want to unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. She lives in Oak Cliff, Texas with her husband Richard Amory where they try to keep up with their three children and remember to water their garden boxes. Interested to learn more? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.
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