The Enneagram is Your Friend: Part Three in New Series on Preserving Your Growth During the Holidays

The Enneagram is Your Friend: Part Three in New Series on Preserving Your Growth During the Holidays

Hello beautiful! Its been all fireworks, street festivals and marching bands over here this week as the Virgin Mary statue makes her nine day pilgrimage around Granada. (Catch a video of her processional and more current adventures by connecting with me over on Instagram and Facebook.) And I love it. I love the carnival atmosphere. I love the twinkle lights and the children, families, older people and lovers holding hands. Everyone strolling the cordoned off streets.

A few nights ago I laid outside on our giant inflatable lobster pool toy for a few minutes (what? I pulled it up out of the water and it was the most comfortable thing to rest on and look up at the night sky.)

As I looked at the moon and heard the fireworks and the hum of people laughing and talking and singing and horns blowing nearby as part of the Mary festivities I felt a sense of recognition. Whether it is the Virgin Mary or the moon or God or The Love/Universe or a good Rumi poem or friend – one of the things which brings us together is that we all need a place where we can lay down our longing:

Longing for beauty.

For community.

For our little lives to have meaning.

For connection.

For freedom from pain, physical and emotional.

For having enough.

For safety and physical needs met for us and for our beloveds.

Sometimes that neediness inside us can make us feel separate. But really we are never more fully connected in our humanity than in those places where we feel tight or lonesome. It is a universal experience and something which seems to bubble up this time time of year. December is a moody time: a time of waiting and turning inward (which can create tension with the popular pressures to “finishing the year strong” and “buy the perfect gift.”)

So we know that there are some common human inner experiences which define us. But there are also very significant ways in which we are different – one of the most important being our Enneagram type.

When I talk to my children about the Enneagram I say that there are nine different “flavors” of people. Like ice cream.
And all of them are beautiful and delicious. But they are distinct.

And the Enneagram is 100% your SUPER POWER when it comes to holiday gatherings of every sort. But it has to be held in a certain way. Otherwise you can hurt yourself and hurt others.
So read on for this weeks reflection or Strategy # Three to managing your growth (and family) through the holidays.

Warmly,

Courtney

Sure you can be in relationship (and go to holiday family gatherings) without knowing your Enneagram personality type, but honestly I don’t know why you wouldn’t want to take off the heavy hands. This tool allows you to first identify your own filter and priorities in relationships and life and to appreciate that there are eight other ways to see it.

It is also the foundation and first step in my new book, The Flourish Formula. Here is a little taste:

“We are each born infused with our essential self. You can see this innate life force shine through when you hold a newborn or in tender interactions with people who are sick, dying or have a mental challenge that keeps them from hiding behind a socially constructed self. 

But most of us can’t bear to go through life that open and vulnerable because life can be rough. We get bumped and bruised and hurt, so we wrap ourselves in a package called personality. The problem is that we start to over-identify with the package. We come to think that we are the package and forget that there are more expansive versions of ourselves within — our deepest selves. From an Enneagram perspective, we call this our essence.

As children, with our nervous systems still developing, it truly does serve us to create a personality package. It would simply overload our circuits to remain completely open to life with all its intensity and rough edges. (Perhaps if we could learn to meditate at three or four we could swing it. My dream for the world!) Filtering through our Enneagram perspective is adaptive, especially at the beginning. You could imagine the Enneagram personality as a cast that aids us in healing a primary wound.

But at a certain point as adults, we have a choice. We are older, we have more wisdom and resources and fully-developed nervous systems. Now, it is not the wound that is affecting us, for the wound has long since healed. It is the cast, or the personality package, that limits our freedom of movement.

The Enneagram identifies nine personality types: three types lead with their heart, three types lead with their head and three types lead with their gut or body knowing. We all tend to lead with one of these centers of intelligence, make significant use of another and underutilize the third.
You all probably know and recognize certain people, friends or family members who might fall into these different categories: for example, the husband of your friend who is super analytical and seems to live in his head, or the aunt who is always helping and giving and loving even if you don’t need what she offers. Or that quick-to-anger colleague who has an uncanny gut instinct. You may even have a natural sense about where you land, given these three categories.”

Again for more on the Enneagram and my distilled step by step process for identifying your type – grab your copy of The Flourish Formula: An Overachiever’s Guide to Slowing Down & Accomplishing More.

For today I want to offer some guidance for how to use the Enneagram to preserve your own growth vis-a-vis holiday gatherings and stress.

Let’s start actually with how not to use it. Please don’t go in and start “typing” everyone in your family or circle of friends. This applies to other personality tools as well. Trust me – your mother or brother really doesn’t want you to tell them that they are a “pitta” ayurveda type or Six on the Enneagram or an ENTJ.

They really don’t.

This is a key concept in awareness work: The only person you can change is yourself.

So how can you use the Enneagram? First, use it to cultivate your compassion and curiosity. Just remembering that there are eight other ways to view the world (and eight other virtues) can help broaden your perspective. Then instead of focusing how other people’s personalities are affecting your holiday experience, consider how your perspective might be limiting your awareness of the situation and keeping you from the pleasure or positive experiences which could be available to you in it. Lastly offer yourself a serious dose of compassion and see if you can loosen up some of your tight places inside to simply be with what is happening in a new way.

This is not easy. But it can cause serious shifts in how you experience your own life and choices, especially at holiday or family gatherings or anywhere which feels “scripted.”

Also my second favorite way to use your Enneagram awareness is to TAKE REALLY GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF.

You know what you are hungry for.

If it is approval and love – how can you heap up a big plate of that for yourself before you head into the holiday gatherings? Could you engage in meditation, quiet time, a walk in nature?

If you know you tend to blow through a room with too much energy and that people are knocked over (unintentionally) by your big presence – how could you discharge some of that energy before you go with a brisk walk or swim or otherwise grounding and centering?

If you tend to swallow your own opinion could you practice naming and giving yourself what you truly desire even if it is before or after the group holiday events?

Things can be a bit wonky this time of year and morning routines can get swallowed by the extra stress of gifting and travel. This calls for what one of my coaching clients this week called “guerrilla self-care.” I love this! Yes! Sneak it in around the edges but do sneak it in.

Now over to you – how do you use The Enneagram as an ally during the holidays? What questions do you have about your type? I’d love to hear your feedback over on the blog.

Wishing you a holiday season full of all the good,

Courtney

PS Would you like to gift a friend or family member a copy of The Flourish Formula? It is super easy! I have included instructions below. If you would like a gorgeous card to print out and tuck in a stocking or go with your gift, just send me a quick email to cp@courtneypinkerton.com with “Flourish GiftCard” in the subject line and we will email you one to print out.

How to Purchase a Kindle Book as a Gift

You can give Kindle books as a gift to anyone. (All you need is an email address, theirs or yours.)
 
You can send or receive Kindle books as gifts even if you do not own a Fire tablet or Kindle e-reader. Recipients can read a Kindle book gift on a supported Amazon device or Kindle reading app. Before you purchase a Kindle book as a gift, make sure that the recipient’s email address is valid.
 
Note: In order to gift a Kindle book title, you will need a valid 1-Click payment method for your account. You can set this up by going to Manage Your Content and Devices, selecting the Settings tab, and then clicking Edit Payment Method below Digital Payment Settings.
 
To purchase a Kindle book as a gift:
 
From the Kindle Store in your desktop browser, select the book you want to purchase as a gift: The Flourish Formula.
 
On the product detail page, click the Give as a Gift button.

Enter the personal email address of your gift recipient.

Tip: If you are unsure of the email address for your recipient or want it to be a surprise you can select Email the gift to me before placing your order.

This allows you to forward the gift email or print and personally deliver it to your recipient. The gift recipient can enter the Gift Claim Code from the email, after logging in to their Amazon account.

Enter a delivery date and an optional gift message.

Click Place your order to finish your gift purchase using your Amazon 1-Click payment method.

You can redeliver a Kindle book gift you’ve purchased by going to Your Digital Orders in Your Account. From the Order Summary page, click the Resend E-mail button.

“Dear Courtney,
Your book, The Flourish Formula, will be MY GIFT to myself, my mother and many close friends this Christmas season. Thank you for creating a “guide” for us to find balance in our lives and appreciation for the unique lives each of us leads. Wishing you and your family love and many blessings this holiday season. Congrats on the new book and website! Xoxo Catherine”

Join Catherine and Gift The Flourish Formula Here.

 

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of the forthcoming book The Flourish Formula and creator of the 8-step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more about her Flourish Coaching Program or upcoming retreat? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.

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Freshen It Up: Part Two in New Series on Preserving Your Growth During the Holidays

Freshen It Up: Part Two in New Series on Preserving Your Growth During the Holidays

Happy Friday! I hope you have had a beautiful week! I took Wednesday off to celebrate my birthday and had a really low-key and mellow day with my husband. This is in contrast to last year when we went to Mexico and visited hot springs, ate dinner on rooftops, had an accidental encounter with an Aztec medicine man and I hatched a plan to write a book. It was one of those “taking stock” birthdays which led to other big shifts, including ultimately moving to Nicaragua.

This year I was craving something different, namely down time. A slow morning walk by the lake. Fresh coconut water. Eating lunch and watching movies in pajamas. (Catch birthday pics and more current adventures by connecting with me over on Instagram and Facebook. )

Which sets me up well to continue with the next installment in our series Strategies for Managing your Growth (and your Family) Through the Holidays. This week is all about keeping holidays fresh and current. Read on and I’d love to hear your feedback below! xo Courtney

True celebrations need room to breathe. And one of the most challenging aspects of preserving your own growth through the holidays is to find room for what you desire amidst the crush of family and other expectations and traditions.

If you feel stuck in a rut with how you or your family honors the holidays – first of all gift yourself an opportunity to pause and ask:

What would actually be the most meaningful for you?

Just like birthday celebrations, this can change year to year.

Maybe this season you want more nights at home with a good book or writing by the fire and less out at holiday parties.

Maybe you want a real tree with just white lights and a handful of favorite ornaments rather than hauling out seven boxes from the attic.

Or maybe you want to decorate a palm tree with pink, turquoise and silver baubles and three kinds of lights (including the blinky ones). Or is that just me?

Sometimes what we crave is simplicity and space. But other times we actually want to put in more effort because it feels meaningful for us at this time. (Like challenging yourself to make a whole holiday meal out of purely local ingredients.)

Freshening up traditions is about finding the sweet spot of expressing your own spiritual and deeper values in a way which feels authentic to you now.

I’ve been amazed to notice how what I want for the holidays is different this year than in years past and informed by the “more is more” aesthetic of the tropics — which honestly starts with the over the top abundance of the natural world here, like the wild bougainvillea which hangs over my pool.

Also I’ve been trying to listen well to my children to observe which of the traditions that we had this time of year in the US still feel good to us here (hot chocolate surprisingly, makes the list, even in this heat) and which we are ready or willing to let go of… like cozy nights in front of the fire. And then there are some traditions which we are having to lovingly reinterpret. As I wrote about this week over on social media: “I can’t even tell u how much I love this tree. The funny thing is that the first tree we tried from our patio was a total fail. It was a sort of tropical cypress and though Christmas-tree “ish” it just didn’t work.

It was like worse than a Charlie Brown tree.

I went on a walk with my sweet husband after we decorated it and talked _the whole walk_ about how it wasn’t right and what were we going to do and were we asking our kids to bend and stretch too much? Was the lack of anything close to a regular Christmas going to put them over the top? I was really worried about it. I know it’s a little thing but for some reason this year when I asked them to sell all their belongings and move to a tiny house in another country I worried this was when the wheels would come off.

The next day while they were at school I un decorated the tree (a first!) and we decided to go for the palm instead. Rosita who helps us at home came by and I told her the problem and we totally got into redecorating this one in a race to get it all festive before the kids came home.

They walked in and we both held our breath. And the kids declared it Beautiful! And way better than before.
What a lesson that sometimes you can’t go back. And if u try too hard to replicate something it ends up weird or forced. Better instead to be where you are and find the beauty. I love it when life and my children conspire to teach me the big lessons…”

Now what to do if you feel obligated to holiday traditions with your extended family that are no longer so fun? I definitely encourage you to move very slowly here and with low expectations of being able to overhaul the whole thing. Family traditions have their own gravitational center.

But see if you could shake up just your part — maybe bringing a new favorite recipe, or suggesting a new outing which you’d actually enjoy for when family is visiting you. These simple things can help you feel more like you, more comfortable in your own skin. And they may even make it easier for others to express new preferences as well.

Another tip is to make sure that you are celebrating the holiday intentionally yourself or with your partner or smaller family either before or after the big group events. Again going filled up rather than needing to be filled can be a game changer and tending consciously to your own celebrations big and small is one of the best forms of soul food I know of.

One of my favorite metaphors for freshening up a family holiday is to think of what happens when you host a garage sale:

What are the extra things you are ready to get rid of – to convert that into currency for new experiences?

And what are the treasures you forgot you had?

So now over to you…

How are you planning to freshen up your holidays this year?

What are you ready to let go of? What treasures did you forget you had? I’d love to hear and hope you will share your experiences in a comment below.

Warmly, Courtney

 

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of the forthcoming book The Flourish Formula and creator of the 8-step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more about her Flourish Coaching Program or upcoming retreat? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.

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Don’t Go Hungry: How to Manage Family + Preserve Your Own Growth

Don’t Go Hungry: How to Manage Family + Preserve Your Own Growth

Happy Friday! I have something tender to talk with you about today – families and your personal growth or evolution.

First of all lets just name the truth shall we?

Hanging out with family (or with any humans for that matter) is not always sweetness and light.

It’s not always autumn sun streaming through the windows, kids frolicking, leaves fluttering and coffee and pumpkin pie smells.

In fact, if you are going through a big personal growth spurt, family gatherings can be really rough.

Yet as is true of every challenge – understanding what is going on (and remembering you are not crazy and alone) can make it so much easier.

So first of all, a caveat:

If your family is genuinely physically or otherwise abusive, an elegant exit and firm boundaries (alongside lining up lots of support for yourself) may be the best way to support your own healing and growth. Please take care of yourself.

But for many of the women I work with the struggle is more subtle – a sense of not being able to show up and be seen for who they really are by their families of origin. Or feeling like there is simply not space for them to evolve and shift in the ways they desire and still remain connected. Instead they feel met with resistance at every turn — and the pressure to go back to normal or to follow the (often unspoken) rules of the tribe.

This can cut, for sure.

So in honor of Thanksgiving in the US and the start to the holiday season – I want to start a new series sharing strategies for preserving yourself and keeping your growth and momentum even around folks who you may feel “just don’t get it.”

Strategy #1: Don’t Go Hungry 

I had a fun Thanksgiving yesterday hosted by new friends in a beautiful colonial home. They threw open their doors to all the expat/American folks in Granada and dozens of us came together in their patio courtyard for a lively potluck among the palm trees. It was really tasty and my husband and I were so grateful to not have to try to cook a turkey in our tiny kitchen and to be able to introduce visiting family, his sister and dad, to more of our community. I even managed to score the super elusive family photo. (Don’t mind Perl, I made her wear a dress.)

But I broke a cardinal rule for myself and came to the party hungry. The gathering started at 3PM but we didn’t really eat until after 5PM and by that time I was seriously ready to gnaw off my arm.

Similarly it doesn’t serve you to head to family gatherings hungry for approval from your parents, your siblings or other relatives. Now of course don’t go and be a robot or totally frozen inside, but I am pointing out how much pressure it can take off you (and them) if you don’t really expect your family to be excited about your new low-sugar diet/Chi Gong practice/Enneagram course and how it has all changed your life. 

In fact I encourage you to feel totally empowered to hold all that goodness inside. Seriously, you don’t have to share it. In fact, as Brene Brown reminds us, people have to earn your vulnerability. Think of all that is stirring and shifting inside you as a glorious secret, a new way of living which is opening you wide to life. And filled from the inside out, it can be easier to simply practice the art of listening. Strange things can happen when you don’t need the people in your life to validate your choices. It can present an opportunity to use all those powerful awareness techniques and simply be present to others: Knots can untangle. Ways can open. Ease can find you.

Now please don’t ignore your own needs and go to extremes (which can trigger our inner martyr). So if someone is talking nonstop and it exhausts you, feel free to share some of your own thoughts or simply excuse yourself to get a drink of water or head to the bathroom for a tapathon. (Tapping = acupressure and a powerful DIY strategy for draining stress from your body.)

In fact tapping, meditation, and other soul food and conscious body movement before you go is another way to really fill yourself up. You can get detailed how-tos on all of these practices in my new book The Flourish Formula.

Meeting resistance to your growth is actually a really important part of the growth process. So look for more strategies from me next week. But for now remember: Family gatherings are the masterclass of personal development work. If you have been feeling pretty enlightened on your recent yoga retreat but find you are climbing out of your skin sitting next to Aunt Margaret — know that this experience is 100% normal. To be expected even. So have some compassion for yourself.

Similarly, you growing and changing can provoke all kinds of things in the hearts and minds of people who know you. Maybe they are afraid they are losing you or their connection. Maybe they feel like you are so advanced you don’t need them anymore. Maybe they are just busy inside of their own pain and confusion or perhaps you changing wakes them up to dreams of their own which had long ago gone dormant. All of this can be uncomfortable. So hold them with compassion too.

Yet here is the thing: you can’t do anything about your family or any one else’s reaction to you. You can’t even really know what it is.

But what you can do something about is how well nourished you are going into any conversations or family time which you find challenging. So in addition to the mindbody + meditation practices I mention above, now is the time likewise to fill up on conversations with chosen family — with those friends who get you easily and your tribe of like-minded people similarly committed to expanding.

In fact I created my 8 step Flourish Coaching Program to be such a community. A greenhouse of growth, where you can talk about the deep and true things without needing to be any different than you are. The women who fill this community are incredibly honest and supportive and the tools I teach (like tapping and meditation and the Enneagram) help you create your inner scaffolding for support. I’d love to talk to you more about it. I have one complimentary Discovery Session remaining for next week — and more in December. So whether you are new here or are a previous client interested in a booster of support, I hope you will say yes to this opportunity and schedule your call here.

Love and all the good,

Courtney 

 

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of the forthcoming book The Flourish Formula and creator of the 8-step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more about her Flourish Coaching Program or upcoming retreat? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.

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Welcome to My New Website! Here is a Quick Tour

Welcome to My New Website! Here is a Quick Tour

Happy Friday! I have something special for you today: a quick tour of my new website! 

We actually did a “silent launch” of the website a few weeks ago in anticipation of The Flourish Formula’s release on Amazon but I have been quiet about it while we worked out the kinks.

But today I’m ready to give you a tour of some of my favorite pages and features.

I have never before worked with a designer to create a custom website. In fact for the first 5+ years of my business it was all DIY over here. That was a beautiful challenge too – as I learned about moving through fear to push “publish” and came to appreciate that anything, technology included, can be a potent teacher. (Websites being especially good at testing your tenacity and diluting your pride.)

But it was time for a beautiful, new online home. One which integrates so seamlessly with the messages in the book that you recognize it all as one space.

I hope it feels like sitting on my porch and sharing something refreshing…

Some of my favorite things on the new site:

1) Click around to see a wealth of photos from our recent shoot with Margie Woods. Some shot in my home/backyard and others around town or at our favorite volcanic crater watering hole.

2) The description of my Flourish 8 Step Coaching program, which expands on the processes in the book. I love the fierce language here, part love letter, part manifesto on the need to slow the bejeezus down so you can feel why you are here, what is yours to do, and what your life wants to be.

3) Also if you have a fav page from the old site it should all be still there for you — we brought everything over. Seriously the web designer was surprised at how much we have to share: the website it is like a lending library of free resources. And with the search button to the right of the blog, you can easily find content you enjoy. (For example type in “meditation” in the search box and kaboom! All relevant posts and pages are there for you.)

And the “slow down and accomplish more” theme is woven throughout the site and in my current teaching and writing so you can expect lots more from me on just how to crack this paradox. (Something I am still learning even as I share what I’ve learned with you!)

For now I just want to invite you to check things out. I’d love to hear what you think of the site and the new photos. You can leave me a comment below.

And please do share on social media or in an email to a friend.

The first three chapters of my book are available for free as a gift here.

Warmly,

Courtney

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of the forthcoming book The Flourish Formula and creator of the 8-step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more about her Flourish Coaching Program or upcoming retreat? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.

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You + Me + Strong Nica Coffee

You + Me + Strong Nica Coffee

Happy Friday!

Today I have a question for you: what does flourishing feel like?

There is so much crazy (not to mention pain) in our world right now and I realized this week that with the launch of my book where I feel invited to step next is to create space for women to focus on and share with each other what feels good.

For years I’ve studied and highlighted the tools: powerful ones like the Enneagram, meditation, and mind-body awareness techniques. And if you are reading The Flourish Formula right now you know that the eight step process is rooted in the most incisive (and practical) awareness techniques I have found. Practices that have the power to change your relationship to just about everything: your work, your body, your intimates, even your spiritual core.

So I love tools, tips and techniques.

But at the same time I find myself yearning to share and hear more about what makes you feel like you are blooming, right here and right now, with life just as it is: full of obligations, choices, pain and beauty.

I think this capacity to savor the good, far from being a cliché, is a vital source of fuel for changing your own life and our communities and world.

So here is a current list of experiences and life moments where I touch and taste my own sense of flourishing:

1.) Choosing the yarn colors for our custom family hammock, which is going to hang in our living room!

2.) Fall feels really different here near the equator – I’m loving that I can still jump in the pool for a midday refresher and yet we get to enjoy the same moody Autumn moon, which hung over us during Day of the Dead Celebrations at the cemetery.

3.) And of course the book. I am so honored that people are downloading it literally around the world (Hello Japan! UK! Brazil! India! Holland! Germany! and more.) And that we achieved the best seller status on Amazon in all three categories of meditation, time-management and skills. Honestly this is better than we even hoped. We had over 800 downloads during the 48 hours of our book launch fueled entirely by word of mouth. That’s you, baby. Thank you. (Note: the recording of the book launch party is available only for a limited time so download via clicking on the photo below!)

4.) Clearly this message of wanting to slow down and accomplish more is resonating and I’m loving meeting women on Discovery Calls and hearing about new life dreams which are emerging: things like starting their family, job prospects which light them up and more. I’m also so inspired by the shifts women who are in my 8 Step Flourish Coaching Program are experiencing — this week especially in their relationship to their bodies and feeling released from long-term stress-related symptoms and pains.

5.) And lastly I’m savoring the feeling of space in my life and time with my husband that has opened in our days now that phase one of the book launch is behind us. (Up next: soliciting “advance praise” for the back cover and preparing to publish the print book in early 2018. But for now… enjoying an exhale together.)

** Oh and one more: Strong Nica coffee. **

I have a few spots left for Discovery Calls next week. Honestly these are such fun. And what is the deal with the coffee? It is simple: I feel like life is easier when we gift ourselves moments of respite and connection. Warm cups which wake up our senses: whether your beverage of choice is lemon water, tea or something stronger. That is what I hope to offer in these Discovery calls — a virtual warm cup and conversation.

So I’ve decided to pick one random winner from the women who schedule Discovery Calls in November and send her a treat. Depending on her preferences this might be a bag of my favorite Nica coffee. Or tea. Or something else. My husband thinks this is silly. (Ah the joys of working together:) But I love to give presents, and I feel like it, so voila. Presents it is. These Discovery spots tend to go fast and may be filled or almost filled next week so reserve yours today.)

Warm best,

Courtney
PS Feel free also to forward this invitation on to a friend or family member you think would enjoy a cup of support right now.

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of the forthcoming book The Flourish Formula and creator of the 8-step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more about her Flourish Coaching Program or upcoming retreat? You can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.

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