Gripping Life Meditation

Maybe you have the beginnings of a headache. Or a chasm has opened between you and the open, relaxed way you wish you were moving through your day.

However it happens… we all have those moments (or indeed whole days) where we are holding on too hard. Trying to force a particular outcome: wringing life’s neck, rather than holding its hand.

As a recovering overachiever… I have come to recognize these moments as clues that I have lost my connection to Source and am instead powering through life on my own small battery. This makes me tired and curbs the impact of what I offer. It turns out that people can feel when what you write, or teach, or do is coming from a tight place (or worse yet that you are expecting them to respond in a particular way to fit into your master plan). This makes them much less open to your work or leadership.

Sometimes I need a moment to reset. To recognize the places I’m holding too tight and the impact that has on my body. And to remember how it feels to peel my fingers one by one off the death grip and to relax and surrender.

Try today’s guided meditation for a step by step process to help you convert those talons of control into a more loving hold.

Releasing Grip of Control_Meditation (Here is the mp3 file for download)



PS Would you like a deep detox for your nervous system including live guided meditations, heart-thumping hikes, and conversations with other change-makers? I hope you will join me in New Mexico this April for a 3 day retreat for women at Ghost Ranch. Read all the details (including a special gift for early Birders) here. 

Photo Nov 12, 6 14 05 PMCourtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life and leadership coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual masters degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School, is the host of the Summer of Meditation Challenge and publishes a weekly e-newsletter on real-world mindfulness practices. Courtney teaches regularly on the Enneagram, meditation, and conscious approaches to leadership and parenting. She lives in Oak Cliff, Texas with her husband Richard Amory where they try to keep up with their three young children and remember to water their garden boxes. Courtney can be reached at and you can read more about her coaching and teaching (and sign up for weekly updates) at

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