Alright I don’t normally share pics from date night but this was too fun.  I took my husband out for a seven course meal (and lots of champagne) at a local farm to table restaurant to celebrate the completion of my book manuscript and to thank him for all the love and support he offered over the last several months.

I know celebrating can seem like a fluffy or inconsequential practice on the road to conscious living, but how do you feel when you don’t pause and drink in your own satisfaction and instead slam into the next goal?

It is rough, right?  An inner disequilibrium or sense of resentment can so easily bubble up.

This is because we are not made to be generative all the time, lovely. Though we live in a culture which would have you believe it is only “go,” “do,” and “more” which count.  We need times to rest so we can get back up and contribute full on again.  And the doorway we walkthrough to those times of renewal?  Celebration.

This can be totally simple, it need not involve fancy shoes.  The point is to be intentional.  To draw a sacred circle around a moment and lift it out of ordinary time, to what is sometimes called “Einstein” time. That more spacious plane.

Also it is vital to tune in to ask yourself what you authentically would enjoy.  Sometimes we get caught up in planning a celebration which looks good on the outside but actually feels empty because it is not what we desire.

The important thing to remember is that we celebrate with all our senses: so incorporate special smells, tastes, touches in your experience.

This intentionality actually reinforces what you learned in the push time.  Not only the lessons from the actual goal you accomplished but all those ancillary lessons from how it didn’t go the way you planned and the resiliency and other skills you had to access (perhaps like asking for help?) to get it done.

Celebrating is one of the most simple and powerful ways I know to show up for yourself and to build a sense of internal trust.  To feel seen by yourself for who you really are.  It is also a powerful way to build a life which fits you more and more… because what we pay attention to grows.

Over to you– what big or little things are you celebrating in this season of your life?  Reply below and share a quick update, I’d love to hear and celebrate with you!

Warmly, Courtney

PS  I am going to be offering a special coaching program in April to share this whole new body of work called the FLOURISH Formula! (a way to beta test these ideas before they go to print later this year.) This coaching program will include both virtual and in person components as well as group and one on one coaching.  Plus the opportunity to be an early reader for excerpts of my new book!  I’m soooo excited to share my eight step formula for how to unlock your greatest professional and creative contributions and flourish in your personal life.  It is going to be a very limited offering so if you are interested send me a note at to let me know and I’ll share the details!

xoxo Courtney

Just had to share this date night action shot. This is what happens when you give your six year old the phone.

xo Courtney


My retreat is _very_ close to selling out but I have actually opened one additional spot so that as many women as possible can enjoy this experience while still keeping in alignment with the boutique feel for the event and intimate group size. So if you want to join Jeni and an amazing group of women and enjoy the heated pool, yoga, group coaching, farm to table meals and more I don’t want you to miss it!  Read all the details and reserve your spot here.

xxo Courtney

Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual masters degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School, is the host of the Summer of Meditation Challenge and publishes a popular blog on soulful living. Courtney teaches regularly on the Enneagram (a personality map), meditation, and mindbody practices to reduce stress as well as supporting busy women who want to unlock their greatest gifts and flourish in their personal lives. She lives in Oak Cliff, Texas with her husband Richard Amory where they try to keep up with their three children and remember to water their garden boxes. You can reach Courtney directly at