Even really accomplished women can suffer from work envy.
It can be easier to check off things you know you are good at or that impress others rather than to stretch after a
Today I’m exploring a tender topic: work envy or what I call “the compare and despair economy.” I just talked about this and much more during a special FB Live book reading. You can watch it here.
These “pings” of envy — whether you feel them on social media or in person — are actually gold. They reveal desires which maybe you were not yet aware you had. When you relax the focus on the other person it frees up so much energy FOR YOU.
So when you are really honest with yourself, what are the kinds of things that make you envious of others’ work accomplishments?
Is it the awards?
The media coverage?
Praise from a boss or a mentor?
Lifestyle things, like the fact that they get to travel for their work or wear better clothes?
Creative contributions like getting their podcast showcased on a high-profile website or their painting picked up by a respected gallery?
What else? What hidden interest, goal or passion might the envy be highlighting for you?
Is it showing you something you long for?
Simply acknowledging this latent desire is a huge step in the right direction even if you don’t yet know what to do or how to invite it into your life.
Decoding work envy and bringing those true longings to the surface allows you to see and claim your most sacred goals – the things that matter most to you.
It is hard to like this inner envy persona when she shows up.
We wish we could vote her off the island.
This week, I want you to be kind to her. Don’t ignore her. Invite her in for a cup of tea. Listen to her. Allow yourself to hear
Flourishing is courageous work. It is fun and it requires laying down old, energy-expensive ways of living.
But you can totally do this.
Work envy is actually a gift. You have a really important voice and skills to contribute. And you aren’t done yet.
Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of The Flourish Formula: An Overachiever's Guide to Slowing Down and Accomplishing More and creator of the 8-Step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more? Each month Courtney offers a handful of complimentary Flourish Assessment Calls for new or potential clients. You can schedule one here.
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