Even really accomplished women can suffer from work envy.

Why?

It can be easier to check off things you know you are good at or that impress others rather than to stretch after a heart-felt desire you aren’t sure you can achieve.

Today I’m exploring a tender topic: work envy or what I call “the compare and despair economy.” I just talked about this and much more during a special FB Live book reading. You can watch it here.

These “pings” of envy — whether you feel them on social media or in person — are actually gold. They reveal desires which maybe you were not yet aware you had. When you relax the focus on the other person it frees up so much energy FOR YOU.

So when you are really honest with yourself, what are the kinds of things that make you envious of others’ work accomplishments? 

Is it the awards? 

The media coverage? 

Praise from a boss or a mentor? 

Lifestyle things, like the fact that they get to travel for their work or wear better clothes? 

Creative contributions like getting their podcast showcased on a high-profile website or their painting picked up by a respected gallery? 

What else? What hidden interest, goal or passion might the envy be highlighting for you?

Is it showing you something you long for?

Simply acknowledging this latent desire is a huge step in the right direction even if you don’t yet know what to do or how to invite it into your life. 

Decoding work envy and bringing those true longings to the surface allows you to see and claim your most sacred goals – the things that matter most to you.

It is hard to like this inner envy persona when she shows up.

We wish we could vote her off the island.

This week, I want you to be kind to her. Don’t ignore her. Invite her in for a cup of tea. Listen to her. Allow yourself to hear through the comparisons to decode what YOU might desire. 

Flourishing is courageous work. It is fun and it requires laying down old, energy-expensive ways of living. 

But you can totally do this. 

Work envy is actually a gift. You have a really important voice and skills to contribute. And you aren’t done yet.

xo Courtney

Are we connected yet on Facebook or Instagram? I share fun behind the scenes videos about the book journey like this one plus tastes from our Nicaraguan adventures! xo Courtney

Courtney Pinkerton is a certified holistic life coach and the author of the Amazon bestseller, The Flourish Formula: An Overachiever’s Guide to Slowing Down & Accomplishing More. Courtney is a student and a teacher of the Enneagram who has helped hundreds of busy women (and a few inspiring men) slow down and accomplish and enjoy more in their life. She holds dual master’s degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School, is the creator of the flourish coaching methodology and the Flourish Formula for Families. After selling their house and all their belongings and spending a year adventuring in Nicaragua and being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more, Courtney and her husband Richard Amory and their three children are making a new home in Asheville, North Carolina.

 

 

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