Today is the launch of my podcast The Flourish Formula with Courtney Pinkerton. I have been working behind the scenes to create this content for you to correspond with the release of The Flourish Formula PRINT version this summer!
You all are the FIRST to receive episode one, which is about the one question you can ask to pop you out of overwhelm.
So if you are going through a big transition, or are feeling trapped and resentful and secretly craving some changes, this one is for you!
You can listen to the first episode here. I also share the behind the scenes details of our family transition from Nicaragua to North Carolina for the summer. (Not a podcast person? You can read the full notes for this episode below in blog form.)
And am excited to share with you that I am going to be donating 50 percent of the proceeds from the print version of The Flourish Formula to a Nicaraguan nonprofit!
Stay tuned for more details on the book and related podcast episodes plus some special content I’m creating for you this summer – a brand new free class and some fresh coaching options including more affordable DIY digital content.
What DO I know (about this situation)?
I’ve never been in such an open-ended moment in my life, or certainly not in my life as a mom, as I am right now. Just a little bit of context. Until recently we lived in Nicaragua. Not quite a month ago we left Nicaragua due to the dramatic political and social change movement and state repression). First, we waited and watched in Costa Rica and then last week we said yes to a generous offer from my husband’s sister and her husband to come spend the summer with them in their beautiful home, which is an eco-lodge in the mountains of North Carolina.
Where we head next I honestly do not know. We had planned to spend two years in Nicaragua as a global adventure and immersion in Spanish. We sold our mid-century ranch house in Dallas and all of our furniture and belongings, except for the few boxes in my sister’s attic, and left with our three children and a suitcase and backpack each.
And we had so much fun in Nicaragua this past year visiting volcanoes and beaches and my children learning Spanish and visiting old friends in the mountains from Peace Corps days and finding new friends, both expats and Nicas, in the beautiful colonial town of Granada.
It is such a magic place each afternoon all I had to do was go for a walk and it would reset me: the rocking chairs on porches, the volcano Mombacho in the distance, the shores of lake Cocibolca, the collection of adobe-style homes each painted its own jewel color.
So in short I was really enjoying it. I wasn’t ready to go and certainly not so suddenly.
And WAY beyond the disturbance in our own family’s plan has been the experience of bearing witness to the Nicaraguan people, led by young people and students, as they risk their lives claiming the right to free expression. I honestly can’t talk about how much this has moved me. It is too hot – too potent. It is the feeling of being a witness to history. But I continue to watch and breathe and hope.
And am excited to share with you that I am going to be donating 50% of the proceeds from the print version of The Flourish Formula to a Nicaraguan nonprofit.
To ride all these waves of change I have been leaning heavily on the tools and techniques I teach in The Flourish Formula. As they say – we teach what we need to learn. And it has helped me get SUPER clear on what is needed to survive and thrive even under times of big change or uncertainty.
Asking this question, “What do I know?” helps us make the first pivotal step in the Flourishing journey.
Turning away from the external to tune in to our own wisdom.
This isn’t just a cliche. It is actually the way to live your own beautiful life fully. Setting some boundaries so that everyone’s ideas for your life don’t fill your head and heart with static.
When I do this exercise right now, here is what comes forward for me:
I know that I am held in a great mystery.
I know that to quote Martin Luther King “The arc of the universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”
I know that my children are healthy and buoyant and an inspiration to me.
I know that my husband loves me. That good friends and family surround me.
I know that I love my work and it again and again invites me to grow beyond the box I thought I was in.
I know that I love my coaching clients and am so inspired by their courage and commitment to their growth.
I know that that the Nicaraguan people are strong and creative and resilient. As are we all.
How can you create under circumstances of big change? Big change is your ally in burning off non-essentials. If you don’t have a lot of extra energy but want to attend to what is most essential and important, here is the key:
LET GO OF NEEDING TO LOOK LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING.
In fact, don’t worry about looking any way at all: successful, together, a good parent or partner or impressive change-the-world agent.
Remember, what anyone thinks about your life is actually none of your business.
Rather than using all your energy to try to force your way forward chasing what you want, focus on what you DO know and let that be the foundation for your authentic life.
For example, maybe you know that you can always count on yourself to keep learning, regardless of the circumstances.
Maybe you know that you come alive when you do yoga, or eat kale, or pet your cat.
Maybe you know how good it feels to come home from a big walk – all sweaty and heart-pumping. And to sip a cool glass of water with basil.
Maybe you know that you are a writer. Or a quilter. Or a teacher. Or a creator of any stripe.
Maybe you know how to save well or earn well or donate well. Or all three.
Maybe you know how to make a mean mojito. Or open a bottle of wine with a flair. Or brew a delicious kombucha.
Maybe you know how to ask for and graciously receive help.
Maybe you know how to breathe in a summer sunset.
Or welcome a squishy hug from your child.
If you really knew what you knew – how much better would that feel inside?
So the next time you feel trapped in any situation, or full of uncertainty or self-doubt, ask yourself “What DO I know?
And trust that it is more than enough.
Love and all the good,
Did you skip to the end? Here is the scoop. In addition to the PRINT launch of The Flourish Formula this summer (and this companion podcast) you can expect a new free master class at the end of June and fresh coaching options including some more affordable DIY digital content!
Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of The Flourish Formula: An Overachiever's Guide to Slowing Down and Accomplishing More and creator of the 8-Step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more? Each month Courtney offers a handful of complimentary Flourish Assessment Calls for new or potential clients. You can schedule one here.
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