Last week I went to sleep super tired every night. It reminded me of how tired my brain felt when first learning Spanish in an immersion program and family stay during the Peace Corps.
The combination of three children homeschooling and Rich and I both working from home means a lot of moving parts. Plus like us all I have been processing the emotions and stress related to COVID-19: fear mostly, and some sadness over personal disruptions and changes and more sadness as I worry about others and wonder how to help.
I’ve also been talking to clients about how to navigate this time. There is no one approach for everyone. Yes routines help. And mindbody practices like tapping and meditation help balance your nervous system and boost your immunity. Take shelter in your relationships, whether at home or virtually. And media limits help you stay informed but not overwhelmed. (This is a personal discernment, but for me the right amount is listening to NPR or the BBC once a day *when my kids are otherwise engaged because honestly they don’t need to hold all of this* plus checking in with the CDC and local officials online as needed. Otherwise I try not to fill the quiet space with news.)
This moment in time is funneling a big dose of additional stress through our collective lives.
So go gentle on yourself if you find that you are more on edge, if old Enneagram patterns emerge again or you pick stupid fights with your husband (or is that just me?).
So where am I finding comfort these days? In good questions. Questions that invite me into living answers.
Here are a couple of my current favorites. You might journal or hold them as a koan or puzzle that you meditate on throughout the day:
🍋 Where am I being carried? Meaning rather than thinking about all I have to DO and getting hung up in that perspective can I notice the places where life is already rising up to support me?
e.g. My neighbor who is facilitating a CSA farm share to be delivered to our cohousing community.
My son inviting me to skateboard and run with him (it’s pretty funny actually).
All the pear trees and other fruit trees blooming around my house.
Another question that nourishes me right now is this:
🍋Where do I find beauty?
Edible flowers + violet ice cubes
My girls playing together
Bird calls + trees that feel like wise elders in the woods behind our house.
I’m also thinking a lot about how I can support people through free resources and online offerings/programs and coaching.
Mental and emotional support is so vital right now.
Here are some of the ways I’m supporting my online community during this time:
On the Blog + Social Media: As many of us are sheltering at home, I’ll be sharing free resources + blogging more often for the foreseeable future. Two upcoming posts I’m planning are: How I am Boosting My Immunity During COVID-19 (you all know I love holistic care so in this post I’ll nerd out about herbs, oils and other tips) and The Change Cycle (A powerful tool + framework for understanding how humans move through a time of dramatic change.) I’m sure I will also share more about navigating relationship stresses with the Enneagram. I’d love to take any blog post requests you have. Please post recommendations in the comments or email them to me: firstname.lastname@example.org.
With Current Clients: At first I was wondering if coaching would feel different in this collective crisis but I’m discovering it to be a sweet moment of connection and a chance to practice flourish tools to boost resiliency. I’m also of course flexible if clients need to reschedule for any reason as we all settle into new routines and grateful to my husband who comes to sit with the kids while I have calls. Here is how one client put it this week:
“I’m feeling such gratitude for our call. I always do, but I admit I was curious to see how today would go, since dwelling on the pandemic isn’t exactly constructive, but I wasn’t sure how we’d focus on anything else. And it was great! Insightful, and I’m left with a feeling of well-being and hope. Also I can’t remember if I told you this but I finally got around to trying Tulsi tea and I’ve been drinking a ton of it. Nothing like endless quantities of a tasty hot non-caffeinated beverage to comfort oneself these days. Anyways, thanks again! 💗 Jeni
For Past Clients: Those of you who are seeking connection and conversation, I’m offering one-off sessions to connect, talk, and provide you the space to explore how you can be intentional during this time. Reach out to me at email@example.com to learn more and schedule a session.
For New Clients: I am thinking a lot about how to support new clients during this time. I am thinking about a “pay from the heart” pricing option for online programs for those whose finances have been impacted by the pandemic and also about reviving my “buy one gift one” program – so that new clients who have the means to invest in coaching are able to get help AND to open up a scholarship for an ER nurse or other person working on the front lines. I have preserved a handful of free coaching slots for prospective clients and you can email me at cp@courtneypinkerton and we will set up a time to talk.
We are all in this together, friends.
Sending you love and a virtual hug on this day.
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