Overloaded with online resources + opportunities?
I get it. I LOVE personal growth resources. I love to learn, especially to drink in Enneagram trainings and quality online coaching programs. And yet that can become another form of doing. Sometimes we are invited to be still. To allow the growth to come to us, like wild edibles or seeds blown by the wind finding their way into your perfectly tended garden rows.
I think this COVID-inspired slow down is inviting us to turn inward.
To some, this may feel more like a rough initiation than a gentle invitation.
There is something painful when you are forced to stop. Especially in a culture that doesn’t honor or acknowledge the inner life or teach us, in little bites, how to be emotionally literate—to feel emotions in our bodies and to distinguish the voice of our Enneagram personality/ego from our deeper essence.
Without embodied practices to help guide us, dramatically ratcheting down the pace can be scary—like being under quarantine with our inner demons.
I write about this feeling of psychic whiplash in my book The Flourish Formula.
One of the things I’m noticing, especially in the personal growth world, is a rush to toss resources into the space that is opening. I feel the impulse myself, wondering “What more can I do/give/share?” and creating free resources, like this guided meditation for resiliency and a post on what my family and I are doing to boost our immune systems.
I relish a well-timed resource and consider myself a human-to-book matchmaker.
However, sustainable inner growth is really not about adding in content or resources.
It is the fine art of subtraction.
As a coach and Enneagram teacher, I do not fix people. I help them discover their wholeness, hidden beneath old ideas, emotional patterns and personality trances that are ready to be cleared.
And clearing the old is often THE most powerful part of the growth process.
So, I want to invite you to be judicious about how much pressure you feel to make the most of this time. Maybe you will finally learn Italian.
Or maybe you will simply sweep off the deck and enjoy the sunshine.
Maybe you will pivot in your creative biz and find the perfect offering to help others right now. Or maybe you can just do one small beautiful job. The work in front of you that brings in income to sustain you and shares your gifts with someone who needs them.
I know these are small gestures. And perhaps like me, you are hungry for the big picture and wondering what is the macro-narrative? Where are we headed? What fruit will grow out of this experience, both from the painful elements and the beautiful ones?
I love those questions; but even more vital is this:
Who do I want to BE during this time? How do I want to show up in my life?
I want to be present to my children and husband and to cultivate the green spaces and relationships with neighbors in our cohousing community. I want to care well for my coaching clients in their unique and varied needs (this challenge is something we are moving through collectively, though the impact is felt individually). I want to sit in meditation and let the Mystery find me. I want to take this time to do a little reflecting on and dreaming related to my coaching business (like maybe REALLY starting a podcast!). And I want to watch the green leaves emerge on the branch out my window.
Who do you want to be? What is the life that is called out of you right now?
How we answer that will be the seed of what grows next.
Love and all the good, Courtney
PS Gentle, consistent support is one of the most powerful ways to nurture growth. That is true in “regular” life but even more true now. A time of slowing down and clearing out the old can be a powerful opportunity to reimagine and redesign your life. As a coach, I am especially drawn given all the economic upheaval to offer support to soulful creatives who want to start their own business or side business. I have been doing this flavor of coaching (what I call biz + life coaching or mentor coaching) organically over the last few years as people have reached out to me and wanted BOTH practical help around creating a website, connecting to clients and building a healthy relationship to money AND a coach who can do the deep dive into the inner life, gremlins and all. I love helping people in this way and currently have space for two new clients. Please send an email to cp@courtneypinkerton for the details. Payment plans are available.
“Courtney is a wonderful coach. As soon as our call connects, I instantly start to relax and breathe as she has coached me to do so many times at the beginnings of calls. After coaching me through a cross-country move and then a decision to have another baby, I started working with her most recently on my dream of starting a copywriting business. Over the course of the past year, I went from buying a notebook and a file folder to organize my thoughts all the way to taking an online course, building my website, and beginning to work with clients! Courtney always supplies me with amazing tools when I need them, helps me get clear on my priorities, and encourages me to celebrate the small (and big) victories. She’s so clearly energized by her work and brings so much passion to the process! As a solopreneur herself, she has a deep understanding of what it takes to start–and sustain–a small business. I’m grateful for Courtney’s wisdom and encouragement as my business begins to bloom.”
Katie Crouch, Copywriter + Owner, www.katiekcrouch.com
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