I wrote a little something recently about a mindset shift that is really serving me — the idea of “play, not perfection” — and I wanted to share it here with you.
We are all going through so much change and evolution, individually and at a social and even global level. I know I can feel overwhelmed or overstimulated with all the change.
Yet here in Asheville summer is at its glorious peak. There is a zucchini on my kitchen table larger than I thought possible to grow. And I’m writing you this newsletter from a new standing desk in the porch/home office I am creating this summer, so I can better hide from my children, write and remember my own self and soul.
With all the sunshine and green life around me it is a good time to play. And DEFINITELY a good time to speak firmly to that inner perfectionist who can get in my way. Read on for more, including a sneak peak at a new self-paced version of my Flourish Formula for Families program including pay from the heart pricing. Warmly, Courtney
Play, not perfection.
This summer I’ve been having fun with a book called The New Bohemians Handbook by designer Justina Blakeney. It has given me permission to LEAN IN to my love of global textiles and plants 🌿 and I created this sweet corner in my bedroom.
I have ALWAYS loved a good rocking chair and got this vintage beauty from a mid-century resale shop here in Asheville. (Apparently it was hand woven in Eastern Europe and brought over. So cool! I wish I knew its full story and all the families who have enjoyed it.) I also finally pressed and hung this tapestry from my travels to San Miguel de Allende a few years back. (I love that it is full of bunnies 🐇 and chickens 🐔 which pretty much mirrors our life here in cohousing — pics soon of our brand new coop!)
I keep my journals and books I’m reading in the magazine rack and so enjoy taking a quiet moment in the evening to reflect on gratitudes or in the morning to capture dreams that have come through. 🌙
There are, of course, other inner voices that come up that tell me I need to know more about color or have more training to REALLY design my home. And who tell me there are probably fancier lights or apps I should be using to capture and share this moment.
And then I remember that it is about play, not perfection. About creating a home that fits. A space and a nest that support me. It is about moving things around and discovering what I enjoy. And, yes, allowing in pleasure and beauty.
Nesting has been good medicine for me this summer. It isn’t a turning away from the work at hand – I stand so grateful and in support of our front-line medical workers and teachers and the community organizers working to bring racial justice and structural changes.
But choosing to live wholly requires honoring my limits. And trusting that I give my best contributions when I am well rested and nourished from within.
Do you have a home nest? Could it use a refresh? Some lighting or summer flowers or a new cushion? I think a home nest is one of the most powerful ways to anchor our bodies and souls to ride times of change. This is something I learned from a mentor of mine years ago and I have helped and encouraged many coaching clients to find their perfect cozy chair or to design a sacred, comforting corner.
Self-care, rest and self-remembering are acts of resistance in a culture that compels us to always push our lives forward as if we have to prove something.
If you would like more nest support I am opening up a brand new Self-Paced version of The Flourish Formula for Families program. It has been a labor of love to create this new format (big shout out to my husband who did the video editing) and a percentage of your fee goes to support The Loveland Foundation to provide mental health care for Black women and girls. I would love to support you and yours with the Enneagram, mind-body tools, easy inspiration and a whole library of resources you can return to as needed to help your family flourish this year and beyond.
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