If things fall apart we can easily drop into self-blame:
“If I was more aware or just did more yoga I could have seen this all coming…”
In fact, one of the things I don’t like about the life coaching industry is that it can seem fluffy or superficial.
Or, worse, populated only by wellness experts who never have a bad day or a dream that doesn’t come together.
All of this can end up feeling like a lot of pressure.
One of the things I have learned the past seven years as a coach helping women receive their next level in life, work, and relationships is that a NEW definition of resiliency is a vital ingredient in creating a life that you love. In other words it isn’t about not falling. It is about how you rise to the challenge.
What do I mean by that?
The old definition for resiliency is almost stoic. It is the capacity to GET BACK UP, like a boxing toy that pops up after getting hit, again and again.
The more expansive definition I’m talking about is different.
It is making the choice to look at any difficulty AS A TEACHER rather than just something that knocks you down.
Allowing you to do more than “get back up” and be the SAME but instead to use challenging circumstances as fuel to stretch and to grow into who you are here to be.
So you actually arrive standing BETTER for what you have learned:
More clear about what is really important to you and dedicated to it.
More resourced and aware of how exactly to fuel yourself through fun, pleasure and self-care.
More present to the people, eco-systems and dreams that you love.
Thích Nhất Hạnh has a phase for this, which I love:
“No mud, no lotus.”
Where are you feeling knocked into the mud by life?
How could you use it as fuel to BLOOM?
PS If you would like support navigating a current challenge I would love to help! I am offering a handful of *free* Flourish Design Calls this week and next. You can read more and schedule your call here.
Courtney Pinkerton, M.Div & M.PP, is a holistic life coach and the founder of Bird in Hand Coaching. She holds dual master's degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard Kennedy School and is the author of The Flourish Formula: An Overachiever's Guide to Slowing Down and Accomplishing More and creator of the 8-Step Flourish Coaching Program. Courtney helps busy women unlock their greatest gifts and thrive in their personal lives. In the summer of 2017 she followed a long time dream and moved to Nicaragua with her husband Richard Amory (they met in Nicaragua in the Peace Corps) and their three children where together they are exploring volcanic islands, colonial cities and beaches. They have made their home in Granada where they are being tutored by their neighbors in the art of slowing down and living more. Interested to learn more? Each month Courtney offers a handful of complimentary Flourish Assessment Calls for new or potential clients. You can schedule one here.
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